Who is a Friend? - words from Chinmayanandaji to us including Kunjalikkutty sahib.

"Cultivate friends! To have a friend is to make life easier and richer. A friend is a present that you give yourself. But you cannot pick up a friend. We have to discover a friend.

Friends are made by many acts: and friends are lost often by single thoughtless act. You must grow up to deserve a friend.... to have friends you must have friendliness in you: selfless and loving, with deep concern for others.

Perhaps dogs are lovable and become friends because they wag their tails..... rarely their tongues. Learn to speak softly, always words of love and affection, then friends multiply. In short, the ability to love and express it in action are the requirements in gathering more and more friends. In fact, "love in action" is the heart of all religions.

Who is a friend? He who comes to you with love and cheer, when all others have left you is a true friend! Such a true friend is discovered not by searching outside for the right person to be friend, but by your growing to be the right person, to deserve a friend!"

......Swami Chinmayananda......

What a great words. This I post to remind me and also to those others who may go through this blog. Our ex-Industry Minister P.K.Kunjalikkutty Sahib is in trouble which he says due to his one time friend Rauf. But when we go deep into the labyrinth of media blitzcreeg, one wonders that the same Kunjalikkutty sahib had the chance to have a long and consistent acquaintance with the great soul, Late Mr.Panakkad shihab Ali Thangal who led a life of service to all. But the long and continuous association with a great man, had not deter our beloved Kunjalikkutty sahib from seeking "friendship" with Mr. Rauf,the dirty Harry, whom he says was blackmailing him for the last 14 or 15 years.

This is not to blame Kunjalikkutty Sahib or any body else. But only to remind us that we are like him.All of us get a chance or many chances to have a company of a great soul who is walking along the same path with us, but with a different determination, aim, purpose, resolution and target. But the erring soul in us fails to deserve him.

With love to all, I quote the words of Swamiji once again, "....a true friend is discovered not by searching outside for the right person to be friend, but by your growing to be the right person, to deserve a friend!"