Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Why the Hero was always Present during Rehearsals? Osho stories -4

I have heard about a small drama company. They were rehearsing. The real drama was getting postponed every day because the rehearsal was never complete. One day the heroine was not there, another day some other actor was not there, one day something else happened- the electricity failed or something – and it went on being postponed.

But the manager was happy for at least one thing: that the hero of the drama had always been present, he had never been absent.

The last rehearsal day he thanked the hero. He said, “You are the only person who can be relied upon. All these other people are unreliable. You are the only one who has never been absent. Summer or winter, cold or hot, you have always been here.”

The hero said, “There is something I would like to say. I am going to get married on the day the real drama is going to be placed, so I thought that I should al least attend the rehearsals. I will not be here on that day – that’s why I have never absented myself.”

source..." Come Follow To You" - by OSHO

Monday, February 14, 2011

LOVE & FEAR ... OSHO Stories. 3.

It happened: a young man, recently married, was going on his honeymoon. He was a Samurai, a Japanese warrior. They were going on a boat to an island when suddenly a storm came. The boat was small and the storm was tremendously terrible, and there was every possibility that they would be drowned.
The wife became very much afraid, started trembling. But she looked at the samurai, her husband. He was sitting silently as if nothing was happening. And they were in the throes of death! And any moment the boat would be gone under the sea.

The woman said,"What are you doing? Why are you sitting like a statue?"

The samurai pulled his sword out of its sheath - the wife could not believe it, what was he doing? - and he put his naked sword just near the throat of the wife. She started laughing and he said, "Why are you laughing? The sword is so near your throat - just a little move and your head will go."

The wife said, "But it is in your hands, so there is no problem. The sword is dangerous, but it is in your hands."

The samurai put his sword back and said, "The storm is in my God's hands. The storm is dangerous, but it is in the hands of somebody whom I love and who loves me. That's why I am unafraid."

When the sword is in your master's hand and he is going to kill you, if you trust him, only then will you die peacefully, lovingly, gracefully. And out of that grace ....... and out of that peace ....... and out of that love ....... you will create the possibility where the new arrives. If you die afraid, the new will not arrive. You will simply die.

source .....'Come Follow to You' .... OSHO.

Sunday, February 13, 2011

Why did Marilyn Monroe commit suicide? OSHO stories -2

" One of the most famous actresses, Marilyn Monroe, committed suicide, and psychoanalysts have been brooding on the reason why. She was one of the most beautiful women ever, one of the most successful. Even the President of America, Kennedy, was in love with her, and she had thousands of lovers. One cannot think of what more you can have. She had everything. But she was public and she knew it. Even in her love chamber when President Kennedy would be there she used to address him as Mr. President- as if one was making love not to a man, but to an institution.
She was an institution. By and by she became aware that she had nothing private. Once somebody asked her- she had just posed for a nude calendar and somebody asked, "Did you have anything on while you posed for the nude calendar?"

She said," Yes, I had something on. The radio."

Exposed, nude, no private self. My feeling is that she committed suicide because that was the only thing left she could have done privately. Everything was public, that was the only thing left she could do on her own, alone- something absolutely intimate and secret.

Public figures are always tempted towards suicide because only through suicide can they have a glimpse of who they are.

All that is beautiful is inner, and the inner means privacy.

...... Source.. Come Follow To You... by OSHO..

Saturday, February 12, 2011

A busy Psychiatrist & a busy Patient. -- OSHO stories 1

" A very high powered New York Psychiatrist was talking to one of his new patients and he told the patient,
"I am very busy, in fact too busy. It will be good if you can help me. The first interview is always one-sided: you will be telling me all that you want to tell me. If I can get it down and look at it, and study it later on at my own convenience, it will be a great help. So here is the tape recorder. I will leave the tape recorder- put the machine on and talk to the tape recorder. Whatsoever you have to say ....... Say all that you would like to say to me and later on I will listen to it." The Psychiatrist asked: "Are you willing?"

The man said,"Of course. It is perfectly alright."

The tape recorder was put on and the Psychiatrist left, but after just two minutes he saw the man leaving the office. He ran after him, stopped him and said, "So soon? You could not have talked much to the tape recorder."

The man said, "Listen, I am also a very busy man. In fact more busy than you. And you are not the first psychiatrist I have consulted. Go back to the consulting room and you will see sitting just by the side of your tape recorder my small dictaphone- talking to the tape recorder."

Osho continues his explanation.

Knowledge is just like this. Nobody is present: dictaphones talking to tape recorders. Your mind is just a tape recorder and scriptures are old dictaphones- an old medium, but still the same. Somebody has said something, it is recorded there. Then you read it and it becomes recorded in your own tape recorder. But there is no personal touch.
Knowing is personal, knowledge mechanical. Through a mechanical approach you can never come to discover the reality, the truth. It is going to be a dead affair. You will attain much information, but you will never attain to transformation.

You may come to know many things, but you will never know the thing which needs to be known: the being that you are and the being that surrounds you - and that which surrounds you is the same as that which is within you. A deep personal contact is needed."

........source - Come follow to You - by OSHO.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Teenagers Learn What they Live

Teenagers Learn What they Live

Dorothy Law Nolte & Rachel Harris

If teenagers live with pressure, they learn to be stressed.

If teenagers live with failure, they learn to give up.

If teenagers live with rejection, they learn to feel lost.

If teenagers live with too many rules, they learn to get around them.

If teenagers live with too few rules, they learn to ignore the needs of others.

If teenagers live with broken promises, they learn to be disappointed.

If teenagers live with respect, they learn to honour others.

If teenagers live with trust, they learn to tell the truth.

If teenagers live with openness, they learn to discover themselves.

If teenagers live with natural consequences, they learn to be accountable.

If teenagers live with responsibility, they learn to be self-reliant.

If teenagers live with healthy habits, they learn to be kind to their bodies.

If teenagers live with support, they learn to feel good about themselves.

If teenagers live with creativity, they learn to share who they are.

If teenagers live with caring attention, they learn how to love.

If teenagers live with positive expectations, they learn to help build a better world.


Parenting by example. Using the simple, powerful message that turned Children Learn What They Liveinto an international bestseller with over 1.5 million copies in print, Drs. Dorothy Law Nolte and Rachel Harris bring their unique perspective to families with adolescents.

Structured, like the first book, around an inspirational poem, Teenagers Learn What They Live addresses the turbulent teenage years, when a stew of hormones, pressures, and temptations makes for such extreme challenges for parents and children. Teenagersaddresses popularity and peer pressure ("If teenagers live with rejection, they learn to feel lost"); the responsibilities of maturity ("If teenagers live with too many rules, they learn how to get around them./ If teenagers live with too few rules, they learn to ignore the needs of others"); body image and the allure of cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol ("If teenagers live with healthy habits, they learn to be kind to their bodies"). Central to the book are ways for parents to communicate with their teenage children-including how to deal with being "tuned out" and when to start the conversation again-and how to strike the right balance between holding on and accepting a teen's growing independence. Hundreds of examples of parent-child interactions cover everything from the all-night graduation party to problems of sexual identity, providing great guidance as well as effective conversation starters.


Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D. is a lifelong teacher and lecturer on family life education, and is the author of the poem "Children Learn What They Live," which has been translated into 20 languages and is used the world over by parents and educators. The mother of three, grandmother of three, and great grandmother of five, she lived and worked in southern California.


Rachel Harris, L.C.S.W., Ph.D., is a psychotherapist who completed postgraduate training in family therapy and parenting education. She lives with her teenage daughter in Princeton, New Jersey. Rachel has known Dorothy Law Nolte for almost 30 years as teaching associates and co-workers

Copy right - authors.

My English Teacher at Kaitharam Govt. High School, Mr. K.M.Julian (late) used to give life counseling classes to us. He was much fond of this inspirational poem. Occasionally he would blurt out in his resounding voice that " any fool can become a father. So take care". In his loving memory I post this poem with courtesy to the great authors.

Children Learn What They Live

Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte

Dorothy Law Nolte, whose poem crafted on deadline for a Torrance (Los Angeles County) newspaper in 1954 became -- without her knowledge -- a child-rearing anthem that parents posted on refrigerators around the world, has died. She was 81.

Mrs. Nolte, a family life educator, died Sunday of cancer at her home in Rancho Santa Margarita (Orange County) said her daughter, Lisa Mulvania.

"Children Learn What They Live," originally written to fill Mrs. Nolte's weekly family advice column in the now-defunct Torrance Herald, has been reprinted in 30 languages and probably appeared more than a few times in "Dear Abby."

Until Mrs. Nolte decided to claim ownership of the poem by basing a 1998 book on it, she never earned a dime from the work often credited to anonymous. She also hadn't realized it was so revered.

"I simply wrote it and put it out there, where it has apparently moved through the world on its own momentum," Mrs. Nolte told the Los Angeles Times earlier this year.

When she discovered in 1972 that a company that made baby-nutrition products was distributing millions of copies of the poem to new parents, Mrs. Nolte decided to copyright the work. She let the company continue to use it for free.

The book, "Children Learn What They Live," devotes a chapter to each line of the poem and is filled with examples of positive teaching. The book has been reprinted in 19 countries and 18 languages.

She was born Dorothy Louise McDaniel on Jan. 12, 1924, in Los Angeles, the only child of Cyrus, an electrician, and his wife, Olga.

Married with two children, Mrs. Nolte trained as a family counselor in the early 1950s and constantly reinvented her career. She held parenting classes, founded a preschool, became a childbirth-education instructor, studied the stress-relieving technique known as Rolfing and called herself "a movement awareness specialist.

Many a writers on life counseling have quoted this poem at several occasions. Children all over the world like it, even though they will fail to be good parents later.

Saturday, February 5, 2011

Who is a Friend? - words from Chinmayanandaji to us including Kunjalikkutty sahib.

"Cultivate friends! To have a friend is to make life easier and richer. A friend is a present that you give yourself. But you cannot pick up a friend. We have to discover a friend.

Friends are made by many acts: and friends are lost often by single thoughtless act. You must grow up to deserve a friend.... to have friends you must have friendliness in you: selfless and loving, with deep concern for others.

Perhaps dogs are lovable and become friends because they wag their tails..... rarely their tongues. Learn to speak softly, always words of love and affection, then friends multiply. In short, the ability to love and express it in action are the requirements in gathering more and more friends. In fact, "love in action" is the heart of all religions.

Who is a friend? He who comes to you with love and cheer, when all others have left you is a true friend! Such a true friend is discovered not by searching outside for the right person to be friend, but by your growing to be the right person, to deserve a friend!"

......Swami Chinmayananda......

What a great words. This I post to remind me and also to those others who may go through this blog. Our ex-Industry Minister P.K.Kunjalikkutty Sahib is in trouble which he says due to his one time friend Rauf. But when we go deep into the labyrinth of media blitzcreeg, one wonders that the same Kunjalikkutty sahib had the chance to have a long and consistent acquaintance with the great soul, Late Mr.Panakkad shihab Ali Thangal who led a life of service to all. But the long and continuous association with a great man, had not deter our beloved Kunjalikkutty sahib from seeking "friendship" with Mr. Rauf,the dirty Harry, whom he says was blackmailing him for the last 14 or 15 years.

This is not to blame Kunjalikkutty Sahib or any body else. But only to remind us that we are like him.All of us get a chance or many chances to have a company of a great soul who is walking along the same path with us, but with a different determination, aim, purpose, resolution and target. But the erring soul in us fails to deserve him.

With love to all, I quote the words of Swamiji once again, "....a true friend is discovered not by searching outside for the right person to be friend, but by your growing to be the right person, to deserve a friend!"